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Scapegoat: The family member unfairly blamed for all problems so others avoid accountability.

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Gaslighting: Manipulation tactic where abusers make you doubt your own memory or reality.

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Flying Monkey: A person the narcissist recruits to spy on, shame, or attack the scapegoat.

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Projection: When abusers accuse you of the very things they’re guilty of.

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Silent Treatment: Withholding communication to punish or control.

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Triangulation: Pitting people against each other to keep control.

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Hoovering: Attempts to “suck” you back into contact after you’ve escaped.

Smear Campaign: Lies spread to destroy your reputation so you’re isolated.

 

Trauma Bond: The emotional chain that keeps victims tied to abusers through cycles of abuse and reward.