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Scapegoat: The family member unfairly blamed for all problems so others avoid accountability.

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Gaslighting: Manipulation tactic where abusers make you doubt your own memory or reality.

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Flying Monkey: A person the narcissist recruits to spy on, shame, or attack the scapegoat.

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Projection: When abusers accuse you of the very things they’re guilty of.

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Silent Treatment: Withholding communication to punish or control.

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Triangulation: Pitting people against each other to keep control.

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Hoovering: Attempts to “suck” you back into contact after you’ve escaped.

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Smear Campaign: Lies spread to destroy your reputation so you’re isolated.

 

Trauma Bond: The emotional chain that keeps victims tied to abusers through cycles of abuse and reward.

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Energy Vampire: A person or entity that drains emotional, mental, or spiritual energy from others. Often disguised as a friend, family member, or co-worker, an energy vampire feeds on attention, sympathy, or conflict, leaving others feeling tired, anxious, or depleted after interactions.
In the warrior’s path, recognizing energy vampires is essential for protecting your peace, conserving life-force, and maintaining presence.

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Love Bombing: Overwhelming displays of affection and attention at the beginning of a relationship, used to gain trust before control begins.

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Devaluation: The phase where the narcissist turns cold—criticizing, mocking, or discarding the same traits they once praised.

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Discard: The final act of rejection once the narcissist has drained their target’s energy and seeks new supply.

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Grey Rock Method: A survival technique where you respond to manipulation with emotionless, minimal reactions—making yourself uninteresting to the abuser.

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No Contact The sacred boundary—a complete severance from the narcissist to protect your peace, rebuild energy, and heal your nervous system.